Dr. Ray Quiett

One of the most complimentary things that one person can say about another person is, “That person is reliable!”  It is common to hear the phrase “A man’s word is his bond.” Do people see you as reliable? Do those people think that you keep your word?  Are you known as a person who does what you say that you will do? This goes right to the core of who we are as individuals. It is often identified as a…

WAIT…IS THAT REALLY TRUE? The title of my article is the title of a very old gospel song. It has been sung for ages. It is probably one of the best known of all the gospel songs. When you check for it on the Internet, you discover that hundreds of people have included it in their albums over the years. The first line of the song says: “This world is not my home I’m just passing through.” I want to challenge that…

In 1897, Emile Durkheim, a pioneering sociologist, did the most comprehensive study of suicide ever done.  He covered numerous countries in Europe, the US and South America. He came to conclude that most people who commit suicide do it for one of three reasons:  They lose all the rules that govern their lives (Anomie); or, they die for a greater cause outside of themselves (Altruistic); or they fold in on themselves, implode, and cease to have a reason to live.…

WHEN I SAY, “I AM A CHRISTIAN…” By Dr. Ray Quiett For years I had trouble trying to understand why I was so reluctant to talk to others about my faith. I finally figured out that there were two causes. One, I really didn’t know how, and two, I was having difficulty accepting the “prescription” techniques that I was taught. Those techniques seemed harsh and rigid to me. Others seemed to use them with success, but not me. I started…

By Dr. Ray Quiett For years I have included in many of my counseling workshops information that I believe to be fundamental to our understanding of human behavior. Simply stated it is: I AM TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN BEHAVIOR AND YOU ARE FOR YOURS. Most people accept this premise intellectually. It becomes more difficult when you get right down to the nuts and bolts of actual behavior. “I believe it, but….” people will often say. For most of us,…